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Self-Esteem | How to Love Yourself and Improve Yourself at the Same Time

You may hear people say, "Love yourself just the way you are." Is this good advice though?

While it's important to love ourselves, does this mean we should love everything about ourselves? What if we have negative traits? Should we never feel shame and be motivated to improve ourselves? If we want to improve ourselves, does that mean we don't love ourselves?

I believe the best way to go is to love the essence of who you are plus your positive traits, but also be motivated to improve yourself at the same time. It is not an either-or decision. You can do both of these things. You can draw your self-love from the fact that you're a human being with inherent dignity and value, as well as from the fact that you're loved by others. Then, you can draw your self-esteem from all your positive traits. You don't need to be good at everything in order to feel good about yourself. If you're a good parent, a good child, a good student, a good worker, a good athlete, …

Don't be Nervous, be Excited!

I've talked about this topic before in the book review I wrote for Daniel McGinn's book, Psyched Up, but since I believe it's such a good tip, I want to focus an entire blog post on it.

One of the most common tips given for dealing with pressure is to try to calm down and relax. While this sometimes can be great advice, other times it can backfire on you. The reason why this tip is sometimes ineffective is because going from nervousness to calmness is often too great of a leap to make, especially if you don't know how to calm down effectively. When people attempt this leap, they often fail and end up choking.

Many times, a more realistic and effective strategy is to reappraise your nervousness as excitement, embrace your adrenaline, and use it in a positive direction. The reason why this alternative tip is often more effective than explicitly trying to calm down is that nervousness and excitement are similar states, so it's easier to go from one to the other. Althoug…

Old School vs New School Coaching

When it comes to sports and coaching, people like to debate about what's better, old school or new school philosophies. I'm not here to say that one is better than the other. I'm here to say that both schools have their strengths and weaknesses, and it is wise to learn from both of them.

What does "old school" and "new school" even mean when it comes to sports and coaching? Before having a debate, you have to define the terms. I define old school sports/coaching as the stereotypes associated with the past. The past can mean 50 years ago, 20 years ago, or even 5 years ago, since sports and coaching are always changing. I define new school sports/coaching as the stereotypes associated with the present or more recent years.

It is important to understand that with old school athletes and coaches of the past, not everyone had the same exact beliefs, attitudes, training styles, and playing styles. The same thing applies to new school coaches today. Stereotypes …

How to Prevent and Overcome Burnout

To prevent and overcome burnout, it helps to know its main causes. Once you know the main causes of burnout, you can then work to prevent or overcome it.

The main causes of burnout: Exhaustion: Sometimes, athletes and coaches get exhausted from the grind of competitive sports. Too many hours, too much expectations, too much stress, too much physical and mental effort without enough time to recharge. All of this can lead to burnout. To prevent yourself from burning out, you need to manage your time better, recover physically and mentally better, find more balance, and increase your motivation. If you do this, you won't feel as exhausted, therefore you won't burnout. Boredom: Sometimes, athletes and coaches just get bored and lose passion after doing the same things over and over. Their sport stops being fun, and this makes them want to quit. To prevent this, you have to actively maintain your love and passion for the game. Have a better attitude and be grateful.  Mix up your train…