Align Your Behavior With Your Goals

It's the time of the year when people are motivated to make changes in their lives. "New year, new me" is the saying. So I will attempt to make today's post motivational.

Some of the best advice I can give to someone is to align your behavior with your goals. This means to live an authentic and committed life. Many people don't have their behavior and goals aligned. Some people have large goals but by looking at their daily behavior, you couldn't tell. They may have large goals, but they don't work very hard. They may think they can still reach their large goals despite being lazy, or maybe they don't realize that they are lazy. Either way, they will be disappointed when they don't reach their large goals.

On the other hand, there are people who work very hard to reach a certain goal, but they don't actually desire this goal. For example, a student could work hard to become a doctor in order to please his/her parents, but he/she may not want to be a doctor. Another example is a father who is a workaholic and makes a lot of money because he thinks that is what he is supposed to do, but deep down, he'd rather have more balance or pursue another kind of career. On the outside, it may seem like these people are successful, but they may not be happy with their lives.

Happiness comes when you align your behavior with your goals. In other words, you live an authentic life, live the life that you want, and commit to your goals every day. If you have large goals, work hard every day to make sure you reach your large goals. Stop postponing your goals for later. Work harder so you can reach your goal sooner and start living the life that you dream about.

On the other hand, if you're working too hard for a goal that you don't want, then stop! Stop wasting time living a life that you don't want to live. Work less, find more balance, or work towards a goal that you truly desire.

One key thing to remember is that no specific goal/path in life is meant for every individual. Some people act like reaching "greatness" is the only valid path in life, that success and achievement are the only things that make life worth living. This is not true. You can live a "normal" or "simple" life, focusing on your family, faith, duty (job/career), and hobbies, and still be very happy. You can be "great" at living this type of simple life.

On the other hand, some people think that "striving for greatness" is a meaningless goal, and it is better to live a simpler life focused on other priorities such as family and religion. But "striving for greatness" in almost any field/career can be a worthy goal. Being great can inspire others and change the world, and this can provide a lot of purpose and meaning in your life.

Some people think their way of life is the best and only way to live. They have the right to believe in this, but you have the right to believe in your goals/priorities. You also have the right to try to persuade others.

The point that I'm trying to make is to trust your goals. If you truly want a certain life, whether it considered "great" or simple, commit to it and don't feel pressured by others to change your goals. Just make sure whatever goals you choose, align your behavior with them so you can live an authentic, happy life.

Side note: when I say "don't feel pressured by others to change your goals," this doesn't mean ignore everyone who doesn't agree with you. People will always try to persuade you into certain ways of life. It is good to listen to them, especially when you're young, so you can better determine for yourself what you want in life. If you never listen to anyone and just do what you want, then you may miss out hearing about an idea or goal that may be good for you. But once you've learned enough, and have committed to a certain pathway, then it is time to worry less about what others think. But still, it is always good to be somewhat open-minded.

Happy New Year!